My Sobriety Playbook

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Ok, here it is. I reread the 12 Steps last night and I am just not a 12 Stepper. What it comes down to for me (and only for me) is that if I believe some other force outside of myself is in control, I will just say ‘fuck it. I can’t control this’ and tumble into a deep well of bourbon and tequila. Call it a lack of faith in outside influences and perhaps and overabundance of faith in myself. I think the steps are amazing tools for others and I respect the power and the role they have played in other’s recoveries, but they are not for me. Instead, I wrote my own steps. I was going to call them rules but I never, ever pay any attention to rules (except rules that if not followed might result in death or dismemberment) so I am calling this my playbook. This is a work in progress. Yes, some of them are close cousins to one another, but for the time being, each is important enough to stand alone. As the months go by, maybe I will combine, reorder, rewrite or add to the playbook.

(Holy shit! As I typed ‘months’ I just realized it is my sober one month anniversary. Woo-Whoo!)

My Sobriety Playbook

  1. Admit that you are addicted to alcohol and while you are not powerless, acknowledge your addiction is a formative foe not to be fucked with.
  2. Ask for what you need. Realize that your recovery is essential to your survival and needs to come first right now.
  3. Gather the troops. Surround yourself with supportive allies. Avoid less supportive influences.
  4. Be introspective and self aware. Write daily. Blog, journal, write poetry, lists, and or work on your novel.
  5. Reach out! Listen to and read other’s stories. Realize the wisdom and power in the journeys of others who have survived or are surviving with you.
  6. Be curious. You have been numb most of your adult life. There are many things you likely don’t know about yourself.
  7. Be kind to yourself! Exercise, eat well and enjoy life.
  8. Forgive yourself and others.
  9. Love.
  10.  Breathe. Unclench. Relax.
  11. Move!
  12. Recognize the voice of Wolfie. Recognize that her voice is crafty, powerful, deceptive and seductive. Wolfie wants you dead. Tell Wolfie to fuck off. Often.

14 thoughts on “My Sobriety Playbook

    Runningfromthebooze said:
    July 24, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    Oh, I like this! ★★★ *: ]

    Lilly said:
    July 24, 2013 at 5:42 pm

    Oh I love this! I could have written this. This works for me so well too. All of it. I feel like you do about the 12-steps. I have issues with the god stuff, the powerless stuff, the dogma, yet at the same time can see a lot of value in the fellowship, support, stepwork examination of self etc. So, while I am not doing AA i haven’t ruled it out 100% either. It’s kind of on the backburner, as a backup, if I find what I’m doing stops working. But for now it’s working, so, so far so cool.

    finallyat50 said:
    July 24, 2013 at 5:49 pm

    Really enjoyed reading so far, I’m just a week behind you on this journey.

    Retraining My Brain | One Too Many said:
    July 24, 2013 at 6:37 pm

    […] today, liking Maya June’s alternate 12 Steps. This I can relate […]

    Rebecca A. Watson said:
    July 24, 2013 at 9:01 pm

    Excellent…love how you call it a playbook. I’m definitely into the idea of rewriting AA ideas because I too am not sure about AA. But there are good things about it and it does provide a good jumping off structure too.

    Also BIG CONGRATS on your one month! From what I’ve experienced and from what I’ve heard it’s the hardest part, so nice work. Keep it up!

    Thirsty said:
    July 24, 2013 at 10:34 pm

    Fantastic list! I love it!

    Belle said:
    July 25, 2013 at 1:03 am

    thankfully “tell wolfie to fuck off, often” turns into “tell wolfie to fuck off weekly, then monthly then only when he pops up his stupid little head.” hooray he comes around less and less so long as we STAY sober. any kind of relapse wakes the bastard up 100%… and who needs that? 🙂 Hugs, Belle xo

    Lisa Neumann said:
    July 25, 2013 at 11:52 am

    good stuff my friend … congrats on one month … big stuff

    Deidre said:
    July 25, 2013 at 4:48 pm

    Appreciate the play book. 100% behind you girl. Years for me, but still day-by-day.

    carrythemessage said:
    July 25, 2013 at 6:40 pm

    Congrats on one month 🙂

    Whatever works for you, keep doing it.


    Sober Life said:
    July 26, 2013 at 9:20 pm

    Nice playbook! Some very important stuff – gather the troops – this one was big for me, I was an isolating drinker, I drank alone, I had no friends. Having the support of others was huge, especially from other alcoholics, who understood exactly how I felt and what I was going thru. Congrats on one month! – Maggie

    adria said:
    July 27, 2013 at 12:26 am

    This is great and probably applicable to any sort of recovery, not just limited to substances. Thanks for this!

    tfay64 said:
    July 27, 2013 at 8:45 am

    That’s a good one! Congrats on one month! woo hoo! hugs. me

    Debbie said:
    August 1, 2013 at 10:37 am

    One month? That’s huge!!! Congratulations and great post 🙂

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